Child Sexual Abuse

Child sexual abuse occurs when a person forces a child to have any form of sexual contact or makes a child perform sexual acts.

Types of Sexual Abuse

Child sexual abuse can be physical, verbal or emotional and includes:

  • Sexual touching and fondling.
  • Exposing children to adult sexual activity or pornographic movies and photos.
  • Having children pose, undress or perform in a sexual fashion on film or in person.
  • Symptoms.
  • Children may have some of the following symptoms as a result of abuse:
  • Nausea/upset stomach.
  • Crying.
  • Changes in sleeping patterns.
  • Clinging to parents.
  • Changes in school performance.
  • Sexually inappropriate behavior.
  • Lying.
  • Change in appetite.
  • Nightmares.
  • Anger and mood changes.
  • Avoidance of school/friends.
  • Aggressiveness.
  • Fears and phobias.
  • Attention seeking.
  • Suicide attempts.
  • Depression.

Why Children Don't Tell

Often children do not tell anyone about sexual abuse because they:

  • Are too young to put what has happened into words.
  • Were threatened or bribed by the abuser to keep the abuse a secret.
  • Feel confused by the attention and the feelings accompanying the abuse.
  • Are afraid no one will believe them.
  • Blame themselves or believe the abuse is punishment for being “bad”.
  • Feel to ashamed or embarrassed to tell.
  • Worry about getting into trouble or getting a loved one into trouble.

Support

How to support a child who discloses abuse to you

  • Keep calm. It is important to remember that you are not angry with the child, but at what happened. Children can mistakenly interpret anger or disgust as directed towards them.
  • Believe the child. In most circumstances children do not lie about sexual abuse.
  • Give positive messages such as “I know you couldn’t help it,” or “I’m proud of you for telling.”
  • Explain to the child that he or she is not to blame for what happened.
  • Listen to and answer the child’s questions honestly.
  • Respect the child’s privacy. Be careful not to discuss the abuse in front of people who do not need to know what happened.
  • Report the abuse to the proper authorities.
  • Get help from a professional counselor.

Resources

For more information contact these local and national organization:

ND Council on Abused Women’s Services

Coalition Against Sexual Assault

418 East Rosser Avenue, #320

Bismarck, ND 58501-4046

888-255-6240 or 701-255-6240

[Email]

Red Flag Green Flag

PO Box 2984

Fargo, ND 58108-2984

701-293-7273

[Red Flag Green Flag Website]

Prevent Child Abuse North Dakota

418 East Rosser Ave #303

Bismarck, ND 58502-1213

800-403-9932 or 701-223-9052

National Children’s Alliance

1319 F Street NW, Suite # 1001

Washington, DC 20004 1106

202-639-5097

[National Children's Alliance Website]

National Children’s Advocacy Center

200 Westside Square, Suite # 700

Huntsville, AL 35801

256-533-0531

[ National Children's Advocacy Center Website]