Violence – Power and Control (Physical, Sexual)

Non-Threatening Behavior

• Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.

Respect

• Listening to her non-judgmentally.
• Being emotionally affirming and understanding.
• Valuing opinions.

Trust and Support

• Supporting her goals in life.
• Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions.

Honesty and Accountability

• Accepting responsibility for self.
• Acknowledging past use of violence.
• Admitting being wrong.
• Communicating openly and truthfully.

Responsible Parenting

• Sharing parental responsibilities.
• Being a positive non-violent role model for the children.

Shared Responsibility

• Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work.
• Making family decisions together.

Economic Partnership

• Making money decisions together.
• Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements.

Negotiation and Fairness

• Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict.
• Accepting change.
• Being willing to compromise.