Teen Power and Control Wheel

Emotional Abuse

• Putting partner down, making them feel bad about themselves.
• Playing mind games.
• Making partner feel crazy.
• Telling "secrets to others.
• Ignoring or using "silent treatment".

Verbal Abuse

• Name calling.
• Criticizing.
• Publicly humiliating.
• "Putting down".
• Embarrassments.

Destruction of Personal Property

• Tearing up pictures.
• Ruining partner’s clothing or other belongings.
• Damaging partner’s car.
• Destroying sentimental items.

Threats/Intimidation

• Using looks, actions to intimidate partner.
• Smashing or throwing objects.
• Threatening to leave partner in a dangerous place.
• Threatening physical harm.

Sexual Abuse

• Touching partner in an unwanted or uncomfortable fashion.
• Continuing sexual advances after being told "NO".
• Forcing sex on a partner.
• Treating partner like a sex object.
• "Playfully" using force during sex.

Abuse of "Male Privilege"

• Making all the decisions.
• Going out with the "guys," but not allowing her the same freedom.
• Assuming certain rights/privileges simply because he is male.

Jealousy and Isolation

• Refusing to let partner join activities.
• Using jealousy as a sign of love instead of insecurity.
• Repeatedly accusing partner of cheating.
• Controlling to whom partner sees and speaks.
• Controlling what partner does.

Physical Abuse

• Attempting to hurt or scare partner physically:

        – Hitting.
        – Biting.
        – Pulling Hair.
        – Grabbing.
        – Pushing.
        – Tripping.
        – Kicking.