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THE
FACTS ON STUDENT VIOLENCE |
Sexual Assault:
The Importance
of Medical Treatment
Sexual and Personal Violence Quiz |
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Though it is not always easy to
predict violent or abusive behavior, these warning signs
provide some indication. Watch out for individuals who…
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ignore
you when you speak; talk over you. |
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cross
or violate your personal boundaries. |
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call
you names or make accusations. |
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expect
you to alter your way of dress. |
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try to
persuade you with pleas or accusations if you resist their
sexual advances. |
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demonstrate a prejudice about gender, race, religion, ability,
size, or sexual orientation. |
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have
displayed violence or abuse against people, animals, objects,
or the earth. |
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expect
you to alter your free time and your activities because of
their jealousy. |
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appear
to have a dual personality. |
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demonstrate a lack of self-esteem. |
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expect
you to yield to their desires. |
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frighten you when they are angry. |
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blame
you for their behavior. |
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drink
heavily or use drugs. |
CONFIDENTIALLY 1-800-341-7009
Confidential help 24-hours a day in North Dakota. |
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ASK YOURSELF |
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Are you at risk of committing
sexual assault or domestic violence? Ask yourself the
following questions to assess your behavior. If you answer yes
to any questions on the list, it is time to make changes so
that your relationships can be healthier and more fulfilling.
For assistance, contact your college counseling center, the
local domestic violence/sexual assault crisis center, or
1-800-341-7009 for confidential help and referrals 24-hours a
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Do you believe that you are not
accountable for your actions when you are: |
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angry?
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jealous or upset? |
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sexually excited? |
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under
the influence of alcohol or drugs? |
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Do you argue with your partner
when you are actually angry with someone else? Do you treat
your partner unequally by… |
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ignoring your partner? |
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dividing responsibilities unevenly? |
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expecting your partner to spend less time with friends and
family? |
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expecting that you and your partner should go more often to
your favorite places and do your favorite things? |
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Do you believe that you know what
your date wants without needing to ask or clarify? |
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Do you assume that the desire for
affection indicates a desire for sex? |
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Do you disbelieve or disregard
someone’s uncertainty about having sex? |
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Do you believe that your date
is responsible for meeting your sexual needs, and that you
should both want the same level of intimacy? |
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Do you believe that it is
sometimes appropriate to have sex with someone who resists or
is disinterested if that person… |
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has
teased you? |
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has
dressed provocatively? |
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said
"no," but seems to mean "yes?" |
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has
had sex with you before? |
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has
allowed you to pay for the date? |
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seems
to want to be persuaded? |
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is
under the influence of alcohol or drugs? |
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initiated sexual contact and then quit? |
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REMEMBER |
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Communicate your sexual desires honestly, and as early as
possible. |
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Stop,
ask, and clarify before engaging in sexual activity.
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You
risk committing sexual assault if you think "no" ever means
"yes." |
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Sexual
and domestic assaults are crimes of violence punishable under
ND law. |
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Even
if you are drunk, you are responsible for your actions.
Intoxication is not a legal defense for illegal behavior.
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PROTECT YOURSELF |
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You can’t always avoid personal
violence, but here are some things you can do to minimize your
chances. |
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Examine your sexual desires and limits before a sexual
encounter. |
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Let
your limits be known to your date. |
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Know
that you are never responsible for fulfilling anyone else’s
sexual needs, and that love is not synonymous with sex.
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Use
assertive speech and body posture. |
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Have
your own transportation or taxi fare. |
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Avoid
secluded places, including houses, apartments, and rooms in
residence halls and fraternity/sorority houses. |
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Be
aware that using alcohol or drugs makes you more vulnerable
because you are less able to assess the danger and escape. |
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Trust
your discomfort; if you sense potential danger, listen to your
instincts. |
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Get
out of violent or uncomfortable situations. |
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Be impolite if necessary. |
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Protest loudly. |
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Leave. |
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Go
for help. |
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For help, contact your college
counselor, abuse and rape crisis center, or 1-800-341-7009.
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You can leave a violent
relationship. People who have left abusive relationships say
they’re happier without the abuse, even if they are alone.
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Confidential help 24-hours a day
in North Dakota. |
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE |
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includes dating and marital violence, as well as violence
against a family member, household member, or anyone with whom
the individual has or has had a relationship. |
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involves verbal threats, mental anguish, physical harm, or
bodily assault. |
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is
against the law. |
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SEXUAL ASSAULT is any act of sexual contact performed by
one or more persons upon another |
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without mutual consent or |
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with
an inability of the victim to give consent due to age, or
mental or |
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physical incapacity that can include intoxication.
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includes same-sex sexual assaults; sexual abuse; and spousal
and acquaintance rape. |
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is
against the law. |
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DID YOU KNOW |
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federal Student-Right-to-Know Act mandates all
federally-funded colleges and universities to have effective
policies and educational programs in place to prevent sexual
assault. It requires that colleges and universities gather and
publish statistics on the number of sexual assaults on campus
each year. |
